You are being abused

Remember, no one deserves to be abused or mistreated.

Consider telling:

  • Someone you trust
  • Someone who will listen and support you

Who can you tell?

  • Family member or relative
  • Clergy/ Faith leader
  • Friend, neighbour
  •  Physician
  • Lawyer/ Accountant
  • Police
  • Community Centre Staff
  • Staff at the Senior’s Centre or Seniors Group
  • Consider bringing a friend with you when you decide to speak with someone about the abuse

How to Start the Conversation:

  • Pick a time when you will have privacy and not feel rushed
  • Say “I have a serious problem that has been happening for….” (Mention the length of time)

Describe what has been happening.

My son, daughter, friend, care giver…has not been treating me well.  He/she has:

  • Used my money for themselves
  • Taken money from my bank account without my permission
  • Denied me access to my money/ possessions
  • Forced me to appoint him/her the Power of Attorney
  • Forced me to sign over my house
  • Forced me to give him/her my PIN # and bank account information
  • Prohibited me from visiting my friends/family or having them visit me
  • Forbidden me from using the telephone to speak with friends or family and block all callers from speaking to me.

My son, daughter, friend, care giver…has been abusive by:

  • Pushing me
  • Shoving me
  • Slapping me
  • Yelling at me
  • Threatening me
  • Saying untrue and unkind things to me
  • Saying hurtful things to me
  • Ignoring me
  • Not providing adequate food, shelter, medicines

When this happens, it makes me feel:

  • Sad
  • Depressed
  • Helpless
  • Angry
  • Lonely
  • Disrespected
  • Humiliated
  • Frightened
  • Embarrassed

I want you to help me by:

  • Listening and supporting me.
  • Helping me to safeguard my finances and money.
  • Taking me to a lawyer to make a new Power of Attorney or Will.
  • Helping me to move somewhere safe.
  • Talking to the abuser with me.
  • Working with me to solve this problem.
  • Calling an agency for help.
  • Checking with me before you take any action.
  • Please don’t share this with anyone else unless you have my permission.  This was very hard for me to talk about.  Thank you for listening.

 

Information taken from “The Ontario Network for the Prevention of Elder Abuse”